Top Agencies are still killing vulnerable young women.

Anorexia-Nervosa-02 I and many other people, thought that we had started to move away from the horrific trend in Fashion circles, for the promotion of anorexia and the degradation of women.
Not so, it seems.

A young and vulnerable but tall girl I have news of, I shall call her Julie, aged 18 going on 12, is illustrating to me just what is wrong, and how it is still going on.
She was told she should use her quirky good looks to make a career in modelling and applied to several top London agencies. They immediately got back and she was snapped up by one of the biggest. The first thing she experienced was the boss lady “teaching her” the 2 most important skills of a model:
These were –
1) How to take cocaine
2) Diet, caffeine, and how to eat cotton wool to defeat the appetite.

When she decided to pull out of the contract due to shocked friends suggesting this was a nightmare, the agency boss poured scorn on them as provincial know-nothings and said she would call the police and enforce the penalty clause on her contract. Friends said, “Fine, you do that and we will detail to the police all your drug pushing and obscene habits” – so she dropped the contract like a hot potato.

This isn’t a gender issue per se, but the ideas and culture around what women should look like are still the major problem, and that is something we can all contribute to changing. As for these agencies, I would be most pleased if others would come forward to confirm or deny this ongoing state of obscenity – and if confirmed, take action before more girls die as a direct result.

The ages in this Wikipedia list of deaths from anorexia are telling:

Since the latest problems with modelling and parents – Julie has made 2 suicide attempts…

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Good News v Bad News: Optimism as a choice

As you absorb the news,goodbadnews
from the BBC,
or the press,
or searching the internet,
It can be only too easy to feed your expectations with what appears to be a reflection of the world as it is…

The BBC’s news agenda is set by the press, still, and it will do its weekend good news stories “and finally” etc. So you, the people, will enjoy your weekend a bit more. Relax – “the world will never end on a Friday or Saturday night!”

You have to be a determined Polyanna to miss the fact that the majority of the news has something of a heavy negative aspect – deaths, destruction, the threat of war, disease, climate change, and so on…

On the other hand you can fool yourself that the bad news we now hear and see every day means that the world is getting worse. I hear people saying this all the time, and what is more they can be amazingly sure of this fact.

But I know it is not a fact…
So when I tell them about Stephen Pinker’s research revealing that we have seen a steady fall in “man-on-man” violence since the caveman days, steady over years, decades, centuries, millennia, they dismiss it.
Whereas they don’t as easily dismiss the news that the CIA deliberately uses labyrinthine conspiracies to kill its own side to justify attacks on fake enemies.

Cognitive bias is one thing – but the notion that the world may actually, at least in some ways, be getting better is NOT something people want to hear.
I am fully aware of the many aspects of the human influenced world that may in fact not be getting better, but I choose to be an optimist despite this awareness – not by avoiding knowing about bad things.

An optimist is someone determined to work for, and set an example of, the best in humanity, because by doing so, you help it become more real.
A pessimist is someone who has deluded themselves that it is better to be right about how bad things might be, and therefore contributes to that worsening of life becoming a reality.
It is not “realism”.
Realism is knowing that optimists on average live 5 years longer, and much happier lives than pessimists, and that the maths of how violence is reducing, just like UK crime figures is a reality.
The big lies are swallowed and then regurgitated ad nauseam by people who fall for sad Daily Mail “nostalgia“, and no quantity of factual information can deny them their negative self fulfilling prophecies…

 

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Women – you know you’re feeling shit, let’s do drugs

I don’t mean illegal drugs silly! – no, those are fun. I mean these drugs:

womans mag

…as in the magazine itself and everything contained in it.
(cover by Twitter’s @TechnicallyRon, give him a #ff)
The content of your ̶ d̶r̶u̶g̶, I mean magazine, is as bad as the cover suggests: adverts that confirm the lies you have ingested since primary school, articles designed to create alienation, the overall message that within consumerism lie all your personalised solutions to…
consumerism.
Features and articles seem to be as if written by the more verbose arm of the advertisers PR firm staff.

That piece on how the widows of Gaza are really getting into L’Oreal’s moisturizing, dead hair-regenerating formula, is that really cool?
and The Dior scent that really does cover the smell of ISIS beheaded Christian teenager must be a SOOOOPer product…

NATO underarm deodorant is this magazine’s Autumn best buy – called “OverArm” (geddit) it means you can emerge feeling fresh and alive from your tank on the lawn, (just minus your arms).

Every product, every designed piece of nuclear waste, every sentence, every photo, these are the drugs that suppress your auto-humane system. Like sugar, you know this shit is making you fat and hopeless but you cannot resist,
– or maybe you can –
simply don’t spend any money on them
and they may disappear…

(unlike the Metro which has to be burned upon discovery)

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The other side of me…ntal health & drugs.

Much has been made of depression, Bipolar and the importance of treatment recently. I have much personal and professional experience and want to add one more little sideways shout to the issue.

I have had people I called friends commit suicide, and others just die…
I wish the formula was as simple as Cognitive Behavioural therapy for some, drugs for others and it should all be OK… The drugs are clumsy, the therapy very variable.
I am one of the lucky ones – a combination of careful drug management and long term psychotherapy from the third (private) therapist I tried, got me to the happy and sustainable drug free person you are reading today.
For a few lucky others with bipolar I know this path has also been followed – but for many more the drug treatments appear to be a permanent requirement, while others gain little from psychotherapy.

The group who receive least loving attention are those labelled “Schizophrenic” – in the public’s eyes, “The really scary ones”.
The figures for murders by Schizophrenics, by the way, are no higher than murders by “Rugby players” (- for example)
bipolar v schizo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The trouble with labelling is illustrated above.
The harsh facts are that we create these names for people who think differently to the norm, and then treat the intricacies of these most special human beings with a toolkit straight out of a road labourer’s van.
Some of them work – you really can bang in a screw with a lump hammer if you try. But the long term prognosis for people with the Schizophrenia diagnosis is an odd one…

I cannot show you evidenced research on premature deaths of Schizophrenics.
Sure there are records of the suicides, but there is a more worrying reason that I cannot confirm whether my anecdotal experience of people dying prematurely after being on long term psychotropic medication is true, or not…
To put it simply, no one, especially not the drug companies, wants to find out if drug treatments might actually be killing people with Schizophrenia. So no one is going to do this research, ever.

To put in my observations from working in the field out there – besides the suicides (many of which were by people who were on drug therapies) there were a remarkable number of people I came across dying in their late 40s or 50s of heart attacks, and some people of all ages dying of “unexplained adult death syndrome” – (which means the autopsy discovered no cause).

I cannot offer a happy solution – taking people with that label off their medication would almost certainly be a disaster causing more deaths and misery. I just want to see development of better drugs, and better talking therapies – given to people whose label is not helpful to treating that person as a complex human being.

One should note that, adjusting for population, the total number of people in the USA diagnosed with either Bipolar(1) or Schizophrenia, is about the same as in the UK.
however, in the UK the proportion diagnosed with bipolar is way smaller, while in America the number of Schizophrenia diagnoses is exactly proportionally, way smaller…

No one wants a label – but I have been mislabeled in the past – had to fight to get it changed on medical records. It illustrates how easy it is to get the wrong label fixed to you and forever you are looked at in “that certain way” .

I once gave a talk with my friend, Nick, who was a leading Psychiatric nurse, to a group of Voluntary sector workers working for groups such as MIND, the MD Fellowship (as was) and many more.
He told us of someone in a midlands hospital they had cured of schizophrenia…in 2 weeks.
An excited member of the audience leant forward saying, “This, I just have to know about!”
“Yup”, Nick said, “The consultant had seen this florid and aggressive older man, given him a diagnosis of schizophrenia and put him on the ward”.
(more leaning forwards)
“We gave him some new batteries for his hearing aids, and three square meals a day and in two weeks he was entirely sane”.

My point being, the deeper you look into this system of mental health and treatment, the more you realise how it is not simple, not something the tabloids can have a five day jamboree over and dismiss… it is as complex as the people affected…
Compassion and understanding, of the kind that Jayne Zito showed in setting up her foundation are what we need a lot more of…
Typical tabloid coverage – much less.

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Fame, depression and death of a hero.

I read a lot of people implying something along the lines of “If I’d been Robin Williams I’d have just been happy to have made it”.

CW, CBS And Showtime 2013 Summer TCA Party - ArrivalsThere are still so many, so confused about fame, about the nature of depression, and about why we get so upset when someone we don’t know at all, not only dies – but chooses to leave us all.

I feel a huge sadness over Robin Williams’ death, and also, a touch of anger that his demons got the better of him and deprived his wife and young children of his compassion and humour in such a devastating way.

The facts remain:
Depression can be in anyone’s life – it touches most.
Fame is not a good goal to be pursued – it will never bring happiness.
Suicide is to be talked about in wise ways – not the way the shitty media cover, this and mass shootings… as a mawkish grief-spreading cancerous feeding frenzy.

Being misunderstood is a part of any life where you express a view in public.
No matter how carefully we choose our words, no matter if people we trust express their deep understanding of what we are saying, and therefore how we feel, they can at best only scratch at a temporary surface.
Those who we do not know, but who read our material, can build amazingly false pictures of who we are – and in turn publicly cement a false version of us in their public’s eye. It has happened to me often on a very minor scale, abusive tweet replies sometimes resulting from a complete misreading of a text apparently well understood by others.
Do you see the fame catch here?
Thousands of people on social media are asking, “Why?” as if they had some understanding of what it was like to be Robin Williams.
No one could ever know, but perhaps it involved the following:

Going home from a stand up gig that went incredibly well, but now there’s no way and nowhere for that buzz to be sustained. You are alone, and you know that none of those people who applauded have any idea who you are or how you feel.
You have been told you have an illness called depression, but when it is at its worst, it lies to you about being a permanent inescapable hell. It is a very good liar, it uses the most honest part of YOU to lie to yourself. It can do this right after your greatest high…

The lies we tell ourselves when we are young often include the one about fame, “I will make a name for myself! – be recognised”.
Whereas those who have made it as movie stars generally dread being “recognised”.
Why do you think that contradiction arises?
The cliché is that you are looking for the love from the world that you didn’t get as a small child. This cliché carries a lot of weight.

You cannot get love from strangers, and the illusion of their love can make you feel less loved than ever…
Only the love of self that incorporates an understanding of your whole self – and the unconditional love of another is critical to that – can be satisfying.

The tragedy for the public who feel something they describe as love for the famous who made us laugh and enjoy ourselves so much, is that we do have a genuine loss, it is a small bereavement. I feel it now.
The wise teachers I had as psychotherapists taught me a lot about this. That no matter how much we may feel we have “got our act together”, or become some kind of top class Zen student, these deaths of the famous can still kick us in the teeth.
My long term therapist, Jeremy Hazel, was learning his trade when George VI died. His teachers noted that nearly every client, Republican, Royalist, orphan or otherwise, reacted as if they had been bereaved of a father.

We should take note of this with regard to how we will be in the UK when the Queen dies.
Just as we note why and how we feel, as the King of Comedy has died.

 

 

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Rape – a law to be eliminated.

I have tried, over 10 years – and despite some verbal support from enlightened criminal lawyers and a couple of MPs, this last attempt failed.
Law commission appeal on rape law

I am getting too old now – but the cause remains true…
Someone else needs to grasp this issue and stop the system from abusing victims of sexual assault three times over, via…
1. Process abuse of victim
2. Failure to prosecute
3. Failure to convict those brought to court due to law being WRONG

Please read, and if you agree, spread it wider.
Thank you.

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The social democrat idealist’s dilemma

Despite the mini-kerfuffle over Cameron choosing some women cabinet members to decorate his dying brand, and wisely removing the GreasyGove, (thus gaining, maybe 25, votes from tory teachers) – it is patently clear that this Tory led “coalition of the corrupting” has to be buried at the next election.

Unfortunately, my vote cannot go whereed-miliband
perhaps you would think it should…
The two Eds’ backgrounds as privileged political  twonks, things like this picture, and THIS and THIS and so much more, convince me that the Labour party will never again be an agent of positive change – just a seeker of power and membership of the establishment.

If you are thinking of voting Labour in 2015,  can you put your hand on your heart and say it is because you think that Labour has vastly improved on its pink Conservatism and war-mongering of Tony Blair? –
Or is it a vote from habit? – a belief that the party which brought in true democratic institutions, and brave positive actions, after the disaster of WW2, may actually return to its root beliefs in equality and social justice?
It is now a plastic imitation bush, not a thriving tree with roots.

There is one party that does appear to hold true to those principles – and unlike the 3 “main” parties, it does not have unwritten drivers based on, “Trying to help my mates for the next 4 years”.
The Green party is founded on the idea of doing the work that might allow our great grandchildren to live in a better world.
This actually involves some solid socialist principles – the very ones abandoned by 90% (bless Dennis Skinner & Paul Flynn) of the parliamentary Labour party.
It also involves some aspects, in terms of reactions to their policies, that may mean not winning an election, – such as the generally under-educated and short sighted selfishness of the Tabloid reading public…
but what choice do we have?

Would we of the left really vote for the lesser of two patent evils because we believe they may make life better in the long run? That they can not only change back but also magically overcome the heavy hand of the establishment and its puppet tory media? Or do we vote for something that we can actually believe in, that doesn’t leave us smelling of shameless compromise and the very shortsighted grab for power that we wish our political elite would abandon…?
Challenge the Greens on their policies and beliefs by all means,  I want to see them held to account. They are going to have a hell of a job breaking down establishment resistance to long term thinking so need heavy discussion and engagement from all as to how to achieve this… but don’t say there is no alternative to the Labour party,
…it has become a comfy bed of quicksand for the self-serving middle class wannabes.
When it comes to that den of defunct dragons, I’m out.

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That Mail apology to Clooney in full…

clooney

Hey George,
We’re sorry, OK?
Sorry that we stitched you up, and yes, you are right, we are the “Worst kind of Tabloid”

But you really want us to apologise in FULL for what we have done? – OK, here goes…

We have a long history you know – long before we were a Tabloid we were on that difficult side of the establishment that supported Herr Hitler – indeed our owner counted him as his personal hero…right up until 1939. But perhaps this now looks too obvious a channel of criticism given that it is historic and it would have been very different if Hitler had been a paedophile, (slobber, sweat, stamp, shout) instead of just loving children.

More recently our agenda has included publishing material reflecting how we regard people like you, the celebrity class, as fodder…or rather, annoying fair game, but only a small part of our racist, misanthropic, misogynistic, hypocritical, deceit-laden, fear-playing, message distorting, Dacre-“soul” reflecting, daily output.

For this daily behaviour we apologise, unreservedly.
Knowing full well that the judgemental god we are taught to believe in by our, King of the Hypocrites, Group CEO, has already condemned every last one of our editors to eternal damnation. He always called them “cunts” and they have long endeavoured to live up to this demeaning curse.

You, of course, represent the worst kind of celebrity as far as we are concerned – an intelligent, left leaning liberal, trying to make the world a “better place” (Yuk!) – and what’s worse, someone with considerable power over the female readership we are trying hard to turn into self-hating consumption machines. You may make people sit up and take notice of our shameful behaviour towards humanity. This is why we had to try and undermine you by whatever methods suited our canon.

For this we are genuinely and deeply sorry. We feared that it may actually affect the only goal of our management:- profits, but it seems that the public are possibly even more stupid than our past, lower, sales figures suggest, so perhaps this was a needless worry.

So we are really sorry
that we can’t discover that you are a paedophile.
Really, really, sorry, and we hope you accept this fuller apology and leave the country soon,

Hahaaaaaa – of course not, it will just raise sales again!
do your worst, we are unaccountable and you can Hack off,
you liberal twat!

oops – Ed. 

 

 

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A formal complaint to the BBC

Complaint-DepartmentAgain on the Andrew Marr Show – on the 1st June.
Enough is enough.
So I decided to make a formal complaint to the BBC:-

“…it isn’t just ONE incident – you have given the MPless, spineless bigot refugee from the Tories, more coverage than the Green party have received in a decade. I had hoped that following the Euro elections you would cease to be his party promotional machine but it goes on…
STOP
Interviewing Nigel Farage.
and let’s have Caroline Lucas or Natalie Bennett on, talking about the politics of world disaster that your squabble focused tittle tattle enhancing hacks seem to think is unimportant compared to the Little Britain, rally-the-bigots agenda.

MPs constantly vote down the “popular death penalty majority” – basically the same crowd who want to ban all immigrants and refuse to listen to education and information.  Now, stop building these morons up like they were important, or a majority. They are not.

Educate inform and entertain them with some world truths outside the Westminster bubble of 4 year selfish blindness.”

You can make a complaint that has to be recorded – online at BBC.co.uk/complaints or via the phone line  03700 100 222.

Fight back against Stupidity bias at the BBC.

 

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A Litmus test to use on friends & acquaintances

farage-TatchellThe question is this:
What is your reaction to these two people?

and then 3 basic sub questions:

1. How much do you know about what each of them has done in the field of politics and what each holds as beliefs?

2. How much have you seen either of these people in the media, and what do you believe this implies about the media you imbibe?

3. Are appearances (clothing, approachability, “attractiveness”, apparent sexuality etc.) more or less important to you than what views erstwhile leaders represent?

I confess to having met one and not the other, and given that my views are those of the intelligent liberal humanitarian base, it’s no surprise to know I sought out Tatchell’s company over Farage. (and always will)
I also confess to at one time distrusting Tatchell, I felt he was being too uncompromising and radical for the good of the labour party.

That was a long while ago, and I was wrong. Peter has now adopted Green politics, as have I, and I see his radical intent for what it is, a heartfelt commitment to right and proper thinking. As opposed to Farage’s commitment to selfish right wing garbage.

So if you find that you cannot warm to Peter Tatchell, but are reading this blog because you have fairly liberal ideas, maybe you should wonder why? – was it his attempts to get Mugabe arrested (that led to him being beaten up)? his attempts to stand up for equality in an Eastern Europe obsessed with homophobia? (that led to him being beaten up) or merely his out gay personality? (which led to a silent rejection by many in the Labour party back in the 80s…)
And if you have a wafer thin mint of grudging respect for Nigel Farage as a politician “different from the mainstream” – then please – drown yourself in beer and burn down a rainforest, because underneath that traditional smarmy veneer, that’s what he is all about…

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